Philadelphia Daily News
Friday, April 26, 2002
Caution didn't help wife
Graves' in-laws told daughter to pick mate wisely
By GLORIA CAMPISI,
DAILY NRWS STAFF WRITER
Amy Wade's parents were always cautious about the men their daughter had met.
"We always counseled our daughter to be very careful," said the Rev. Glen Wade, Amy's father. They urged her to wait for a "kind and loving man" as a marriage partner.
Then along came Troy Graves, and both Amy and her parents thought she had found her dream guy.
"He was a wonderful person to her," Wade said. "He was kind. He was respectful. He was respectful to us. He never abused her, even verbally."
Troy Graves and Amy Wade were married in March 2001 and lived together in Fort Collins, Colo., while Graves, an airman, was stationed at the F.E. Warren Air Force Base in Cheyenne, Wyo.
Her father said Amy has not been able to recover from the shock she suffered when Graves, 29, was identified by police as a rape and murder suspect in Colorado and Philadelphia.
Authorities say DNA tests link Graves to a string of sexual assaults in Fort Collins, the strangulation murder of Wharton School student Shannon Schieber, 23, in Philadelphia in 1998, and five other sexual assaults here.
Graves' brother, Marc, 36, of Bristol, Colo., said he would like to apologize in person to Schieber's parents for his brother's alleged actions.
"I would sincerely like to meet Shannon's parents," he told the Philadelphia Inquirer. "All I have are words. There's nothing I can do.
"She was such a beautiful girl, and she had so much ahead of her. It's awful."
But Glen Wade, a Seventh Day Adventist minister who lives in Florida, said his daughter was also a victim of Troy Graves.
"She had no clue that any of this was in Troy's background. Now, all of a sudden, everything is the opposite of the man she knew."
Amy, 25, learned about the charges when police asked her where her husband was. They went to the police station together Tuesday and that was the last time she saw Graves.
"She lost a husband, a job; her things have been taken for evidence. She has nothing. She can't see that there is any future," her father said.
Wade, who said he has counseled rape victims as a minister, said his daughter has two college degrees and had just started a job with a consulting firm, but hasn't been able to work since her husband's arrest. *